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If I was fat, I'd sit on all of you!!

  • Apr. 11th, 2009 at 1:10 PM
Some people have the tendency to put on weight even though their food intake is low, while some tend to remain thin and look like stick figures. There are also a microscopically small handful who can eat what they feel like and maintain a fairly well balanced coating of fat and muscle.

I'm one of those people with a high metabolic rate. Add to that, my insomnia and you have a thin guy who looks like two arms and legs made hastily out of hangar-wire.

I can't put on weight even if I really try hard to do so. :( It's NOT cool, and it's not fun. There's a stigma around the globe when it comes to fat people, but since there are so many of them (roughly 80% of the population in the more developed nations consists of the mildly obese to the super-heavy weights), they've become an un-detachable part of the world we've come to believe, surrounds us. There are so many people out there who are overweight, that they've become a staple in our daily lives. If you were to walk down the street and find no fat people, you'd do a back-flip out of sheer terror!

Being miserably thin as I am, has a different level of acceptance. Here's what I face every day.. When I leave for work in the morning, I'm usually focused upon by passers by, way longer than is considered decent. Once I get to work, he security guard says I'm thin. The receptionist who greets me with a smile and a Good morning (that sounds so terribly forced) tells me that she wished I would take some of her fat (not sure what she means, but it's gross, I know). As I take the lift to my floor, I'm usually alone, but sometimes, there's someone in the lift with me, and they invariably have those hungry eyes shimmering with restrained tears.

Once I start working in earnest, some of the companies partners and other random folk who I gotta interact with show up. This is not a thrilling time. Some have the sense to keep their vile mouths shut. But most of them can't help squealing (it literally sounds like a squeal!!) "Gosh! You're so thin!! You should put on some weight! Don't you eat any food at all? Eat something.. Have bananas and milk..". They have no idea how damn out-casted I feel when they do that. Even people on the over-heavy side do it without caring a rats ass about how I would feel. For gods sake, I hardly even know them!

If I saw a fat guy and went around telling them in a high pitched whine "Gosh! You're so fat!! Why don't you just stop eating!", I'd probably lose my job within a few minutes at most.

That's weight discrimination. :( And I hate it. I'm not complaining so much as letting fly a random rant though. :) I have met some amazing people. Some of them BIG, some of them small. Some of them huge, and less than a handful of the thin.

Why don't people get it? Fat or thin, they're people right!! Right??

They're gonna hate me for this one. :) Hehe!




subtle_blues wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 01:42 pm (UTC)
but then Indians ARE like that. Try being given tips by women and men alike to make your skin fairer (use fair&lovely, apply cream and turmeric, get a facial, don't drink tea, bla bla bla). Indians just have this obnoxious habit of prodding into anything anomalous about others. Most can not look beyond the physical, you've surely seen the matrimonial ads. They actually feel they are doing the person a favor by advising them on how to fix the anomaly. I don't know what advantages such overly intrusive culture may have. It's one of the reasons I fled India (cowardly move, sure; but I just prefer being invisible and that's what I am here)
pun_princess wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 05:29 pm (UTC)
The discrimination on either side of the equilibrium is stale! The dumb crinkle their nose labeling you *Brainy* while the Nerds squirm at the thought of *Dumb* company irrespective of gender.

I am sick of the cheesy aunties and my gorgeous girl chums telling me how dark I have grown every time they meet after a brief break, the stigma of being fair skinned, I'd rather more melanin and go bare in sun!

The same goes for my curly tresses. People who openly wish to have same as mine do not even know what maintenance the curls demand.

Bottomline, I'm grateful for all of my senses being functional , a brain that works OK most times, a rusty memory but that's something I can put up with too!

Cheers :)
angiasaa wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 06:29 pm (UTC)
Despite everything we have and don't have, some of us would never trade what we have for something else. Not because we're used to it by any means, but because deep down inside, we're in love with who we really are.

I hate the whole surface phenomena. But then, they're only bygones who glue themselves to just the upper layer and spread their fingers in a scream. :)
pun_princess wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 06:53 pm (UTC)
It is a bit difficult to discern if it is love or getting used to something. I hated my curls so much I cribbed all of my early teen years to get my hair straightened. I did straighten them and I hated the way I looked with straight hair.

We all are more or less insecure, but more one loves him/herself the insecurity shrinks. Only self love shouldn't be so over bearing that one fails to appreciate to appreciate the good and beauty different from the within him/her. The one that resides in others-inanimate or animate. :)

I believe self love isn't about indulging him/herself or bragging while somewhere deep down hating thy self for the flaws one knows he/she has or being selfish or it being the one and last love [as orkut professes] :P

No one gets the complete package but we all get the fair deal, don't we? :)

SNUB down the fatties, mow down the impertinent onlookers, give then shit if that is what they want!
angiasaa wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 06:26 pm (UTC)
Not just Indians. It's a global phenomena! Though not exactly touching on the same points. It's unfortunate, but people in general like to be aware of their surroundings. Sadly, Other humans make up most of their surroundings.

Bring in the nukes!! I'm not all that pleased about disarmament. :)
subtle_blues wrote:
Apr. 14th, 2009 10:21 pm (UTC)
but people in general like to be aware of their surroundings

I think people in general like to _control_ their surroundings. They have an idea of what's normal and acceptable and they want everything around them to fit that bill.
angiasaa wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2009 05:22 am (UTC)
Yes, I agree with that. I was consciously toning it down. :) See, I try to control your thoughts also. :-D

And you've actually touched the peak of the correct iceberg there. We all have our ideas about what's "Normal" and what's not. And we consciously or unconsciously try to squeeze everything to fit into that picture.

The fact though, is that there's no such thing as "Normal", or at least not in the true sense of the word. It may be applied to specific individuals, but it can't be applied to a the populace.

To each, his own rings true, but in general, no one really subscribes to it. Even those who claim to believe in it tend toward failure when it comes to upholding their 'beliefs' over time.