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If I was fat, I'd sit on all of you!!

  • Apr. 11th, 2009 at 1:10 PM
Some people have the tendency to put on weight even though their food intake is low, while some tend to remain thin and look like stick figures. There are also a microscopically small handful who can eat what they feel like and maintain a fairly well balanced coating of fat and muscle.

I'm one of those people with a high metabolic rate. Add to that, my insomnia and you have a thin guy who looks like two arms and legs made hastily out of hangar-wire.

I can't put on weight even if I really try hard to do so. :( It's NOT cool, and it's not fun. There's a stigma around the globe when it comes to fat people, but since there are so many of them (roughly 80% of the population in the more developed nations consists of the mildly obese to the super-heavy weights), they've become an un-detachable part of the world we've come to believe, surrounds us. There are so many people out there who are overweight, that they've become a staple in our daily lives. If you were to walk down the street and find no fat people, you'd do a back-flip out of sheer terror!

Being miserably thin as I am, has a different level of acceptance. Here's what I face every day.. When I leave for work in the morning, I'm usually focused upon by passers by, way longer than is considered decent. Once I get to work, he security guard says I'm thin. The receptionist who greets me with a smile and a Good morning (that sounds so terribly forced) tells me that she wished I would take some of her fat (not sure what she means, but it's gross, I know). As I take the lift to my floor, I'm usually alone, but sometimes, there's someone in the lift with me, and they invariably have those hungry eyes shimmering with restrained tears.

Once I start working in earnest, some of the companies partners and other random folk who I gotta interact with show up. This is not a thrilling time. Some have the sense to keep their vile mouths shut. But most of them can't help squealing (it literally sounds like a squeal!!) "Gosh! You're so thin!! You should put on some weight! Don't you eat any food at all? Eat something.. Have bananas and milk..". They have no idea how damn out-casted I feel when they do that. Even people on the over-heavy side do it without caring a rats ass about how I would feel. For gods sake, I hardly even know them!

If I saw a fat guy and went around telling them in a high pitched whine "Gosh! You're so fat!! Why don't you just stop eating!", I'd probably lose my job within a few minutes at most.

That's weight discrimination. :( And I hate it. I'm not complaining so much as letting fly a random rant though. :) I have met some amazing people. Some of them BIG, some of them small. Some of them huge, and less than a handful of the thin.

Why don't people get it? Fat or thin, they're people right!! Right??

They're gonna hate me for this one. :) Hehe!




sepiaverse wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 12:52 pm (UTC)
i know what you mean :) it's kind of like the reaction people have when they see my palms and feet...

the trick is to not let it affect one's self-image :P
subtle_blues wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 01:49 pm (UTC)
It's funny how we say 'self-image' or 'self-esteem' when they are obviously so influenced by what others think of us. It takes a great deal of resilience and years of mental struggle to actually come unstuck from that 'non-self made image'.
(no subject) - sepiaverse - Apr. 11th, 2009 02:27 pm (UTC)
(no subject) - angiasaa - Apr. 11th, 2009 06:08 pm (UTC)
(no subject) - sepiaverse - Apr. 11th, 2009 06:17 pm (UTC)
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subtle_blues wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 01:42 pm (UTC)
but then Indians ARE like that. Try being given tips by women and men alike to make your skin fairer (use fair&lovely, apply cream and turmeric, get a facial, don't drink tea, bla bla bla). Indians just have this obnoxious habit of prodding into anything anomalous about others. Most can not look beyond the physical, you've surely seen the matrimonial ads. They actually feel they are doing the person a favor by advising them on how to fix the anomaly. I don't know what advantages such overly intrusive culture may have. It's one of the reasons I fled India (cowardly move, sure; but I just prefer being invisible and that's what I am here)
pun_princess wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 05:29 pm (UTC)
The discrimination on either side of the equilibrium is stale! The dumb crinkle their nose labeling you *Brainy* while the Nerds squirm at the thought of *Dumb* company irrespective of gender.

I am sick of the cheesy aunties and my gorgeous girl chums telling me how dark I have grown every time they meet after a brief break, the stigma of being fair skinned, I'd rather more melanin and go bare in sun!

The same goes for my curly tresses. People who openly wish to have same as mine do not even know what maintenance the curls demand.

Bottomline, I'm grateful for all of my senses being functional , a brain that works OK most times, a rusty memory but that's something I can put up with too!

Cheers :)
(no subject) - angiasaa - Apr. 11th, 2009 06:29 pm (UTC)
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(no subject) - angiasaa - Apr. 11th, 2009 06:26 pm (UTC)
(no subject) - subtle_blues - Apr. 14th, 2009 10:21 pm (UTC)
(no subject) - angiasaa - Apr. 15th, 2009 05:22 am (UTC)
pmax3 wrote:
Apr. 11th, 2009 03:28 pm (UTC)
Hey, I understand your pain. I was once where you are - extremely thin. I am still thin, but I am making progress. Here is the secret of all secrets: you are not destined to skinnidom. You can become big - you just have to eat a lot - and add a lot of protein. By a lot I mean think the maximum you have had in a day. Then double it. Double it again. Add some more. That's how much you gotta eat. And forget about putting on lean mass if you are vegeterian. You gotta had some (a lot) meat to your diet. To get to the point - Go to http://www.t-nation.com and search for just the remedy for skinny guys. Or ask somebody at a forum - they will point you to the right place. If you have any doubts, come back to me and I will show you how it's done. I am at 77 kg now and I am planning to rachet it up to 85 over the next two months. We are in this together buddy, don't hesitate to ask anything. Cheers!
nikitamehta wrote:
Apr. 12th, 2009 06:34 am (UTC)

so wwill it help if I told you im jealous of your metabolism?

heheheh.. what a thing to be jealous of!!

angiasaa wrote:
Apr. 12th, 2009 10:53 am (UTC)
Wwwill it help? No. Wwwould it bring a smile to my face? It would. :)

Edited at 2009-04-12 10:53 am (UTC)
(no subject) - nikitamehta - Apr. 12th, 2009 12:09 pm (UTC)
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inspirethoughts wrote:
Apr. 12th, 2009 04:06 pm (UTC)
I can't put on weight even if I really try hard to do so.

How lucky! Man wish I was like this. I dont need to eat anything just air is enough to make me fat. :(

I understand ur post but I really really really wish I could be like u.
angiasaa wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2009 06:57 am (UTC)
It's worse if you're like me. :) It's not about feeling good or bad about myself. I'm fine with how I am. But I'd give an arm and a leg to have people keep their comments to themselves.

The point of my post, is that fat people are so common, that if you say something that might potentially insult them, you run for cover. Besides, most people are fat any way. So for a fat guy to say something that's potentially risky, It slides easy.

However, you don't see miserably thin people like me very much these days. With over 60% of the globe carrying diplomas in obesity, it's small wonder. Thin people like me make up between 5 and 10 percent. I don't mean the malnourished people, or the starving millions. I mean the naturally thin people who just don't put on weight.

The average person has no idea how insulting it sounds when they say stuff. Frankly, just as a fat person feels insulted when someone says "Gosh! You're so damn fat!", Thin people feel insulted. But no one knows.. No one cares.

Often, when I finally have enough and tell people to stop harping about the fact that I'm oh so thin, they just don't get the hint. They'll just go on and on and on like there was no end to how it truly amazes them that I'm thin. They never get over it.

And I wish I could be fat.. :( Just so they'd finally keep their thoughts to themselves like they do when they're around fat people.

Edited at 2009-04-15 06:59 am (UTC)
(no subject) - inspirethoughts - Apr. 15th, 2009 03:42 pm (UTC)
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nikitamehta wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2009 06:41 am (UTC)
Its an invented word....

one of many!
(no subject) - angiasaa - Apr. 15th, 2009 03:56 pm (UTC)
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piraticpontiff wrote:
Apr. 14th, 2009 05:53 pm (UTC)
I see this as more as induced perception. You think someone is unhappy because there is an 'inner person' wanting to come out, and you feel good about helping that person out. Kind of like Vicks, does not stop cold but makes you feel good about doing something about it.
angiasaa wrote:
Apr. 15th, 2009 04:11 pm (UTC)
That's an odd analogy, but I see your point. Valid as it is, my inner self does not really exist. I make it up as I go along. :)
lovexgoddess wrote:
Apr. 21st, 2009 01:28 am (UTC)
I must say this entry is very well written and I agree with your point of view...but I still believe it's better to be thin than fat. I don't think thin people are discriminated against in a job interview or certain other circumstances. Thin people are the closest to the stereotypical image of perfection in this world....so even though I understand where you're coming from, being a person with a high metabolic rate must be tough but I still think a fat person goes through more discrimination and bullying and hurt than a thin person...but I guess I can't be certain since I've not experienced it in their viewpoint. Hmm somewhere in this comment I lost my main point that I wanted to say. I'll get back to ya :)
lovexgoddess wrote:
Apr. 21st, 2009 01:33 am (UTC)
Oh, what I wanted to say was that you made a very good point in that both sides have difficulties and people can be rude to both sides...I didn't think about your side as much when I wrote my entry but I knew it was there in my subconcious but being my LJ and all, I decided to concentrate on myself and me me me as always...it's something i'd like to stop but can't seem to.

ps In australia there's more thin people than fat. Maybe where you are, it's different but here, majority of people have amazing bodies....people are more and more looking like barbies and kens here...
ext_185999 wrote:
May. 6th, 2009 12:41 pm (UTC)
came here through subtle_blues.

i could agree with you for most of the post, and i will not say i 'envy' you or am 'soooo jealous' of whtever a plump/fat/obese/ANOREXIC person would've said to you; though i have been all of that except anorexic.

first of all, it isn't easy being overweight either. no matter how much ppl tell u tht, u'd never understand it unless u went thru it... especially in the so called 'prime of ur life'. true, there are a lot of fat ppl around, but there is always a proportionate number of judgemental folks around them too. what with popular media and six to eight packed youth icons today, it's getting worse. it hurts even though u know ppl r shallow. what really hurts is that u have a certain image of urself (self-image if u may), which totally doesn't match with the image they have of u. which doesn't matter in the long run (except if u've got a crush or are in a relationship with ppl of that sort), but is hurtful all the same.

and personally, i don't yell /snap back at ppl who ask me to eat less/go on a diet/exercise. i'd kill myself with the guilt, but then again, it's just the way i react to things.

which comes back to the point of the thread. u could be fat or thin, tall or short, dark or fair, fast or slow, white or black... it's about perceived normal vs abnormal! the film heroines of the north r forever on a diet, while the ones in the south have thunder thighs n a jiggly belly... but r still the darlings of the public :)
angiasaa wrote:
May. 6th, 2009 06:45 pm (UTC)
Ah, welcome to my space..

You touch upon a point most tend to miss. :) it's all relative, and more importantly, perception based. The grass is always greener on the other side, and it's no more true than in the case of the ever reactive song of self-image.

What people say does'nt kill me per se.. It's the fact that they think nothing of saying it that actually bugs me. Man is a social animal, or rather, man once was. Today, people have got warped images of what it means to be 'social' burned into their minds. Most everything's to do with surface phenomena or projected images. We're miles from where we once were, when the world still spun slowly, and people believed in the beauty of just being.

A tasteless sojourn indeed, but one that's true nonetheless. :)